James 3:13-18: in context

James asks a pointed question: who is wise and understanding among you? And he answers it in a way we might not expect, not by pointing to cleverness or knowledge but to conduct: let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the gentleness that comes from wisdom. He warns that if we harbor bitter jealousy and selfish ambition, we should not boast of our wisdom, for that kind of wisdom is not from above but earthly, unspiritual, demonic, and it breeds disorder and every vile practice. The wisdom from above, by contrast, is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And the harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.

James measures wisdom by a surprising standard: not by how much a person knows or how cleverly they argue, but by the character of their life, and especially by whether it is gentle and peaceable. True wisdom, the wisdom from above, is recognized by its fruits, purity, peaceableness, gentleness, mercy, sincerity, and it shows itself in a manner of life marked by meekness rather than by force. And there is a sharp test built into this, because James says that where there is bitter jealousy and selfish ambition, there is no true wisdom at all, however impressive it looks, but something earthly and even demonic, producing disorder and every kind of evil. This overturns our usual measure. We tend to credit as wise the person who is quick, clever, and gets their way, and to overlook whether they leave jealousy and strife in their wake. James says the opposite: if what someone calls wisdom is full of rivalry and self-seeking and sows conflict, it is not from God at all, no matter how brilliant it seems. The mark of the wisdom that comes down from above is not cleverness but gentleness, not winning but peace, a life that is pure and merciful and makes peace rather than strife. Real wisdom, in the end, is known less by what a person can argue than by the peaceable, gentle character of how they live.

Do I measure wisdom, in myself and others, by cleverness and getting my way, or by the standard James gives, gentleness, mercy, and peace, and does what I call my wisdom leave peace in its wake or jealousy and strife?